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The Reality of Adult Friendship: Here’s Why You’re Lonely & How to Make Real Friends as an Adult

If you’ve ever felt like making friends as an adult feels impossible, or you’ve looked around and thought, "Where did all my friends go?" – you are not alone. Or maybe you have friends, and you want deeper connections, but you don’t know how to create it without forcing it. Friendship is hard right now. Which is why today, Mel is sitting down with Harvard-trained social scientist and bestselling author, Kasley Killam, who has spent the last 15 years researching friendship, connection, and loneliness. Have you ever wondered why the friendships that once felt close now feel distant? Why you genuinely want to see people more, but somehow always end up canceling? Or why making new friends as an adult feels so forced and exhausting when it never used to? There's a reason for all of that. And today, Kasley is giving you the answer. She is also raising the stakes on friendship and explaining why social health is the missing key to living a longer, healthier, and happier life. Kasley has conducted positive psychology research at the University of Pennsylvania and launched an award-winning initiative at Stanford that promotes empathy and kindness. And in this conversation, she’s here to clear up the confusion, cut through the excuses, and give you the tools that make connection feel doable again. You’ll also learn the 4 friendship styles - and identify which one you are - so you’ll finally understand why friendship drains you, why it feels easy for some people, and what you specifically need to create the relationships you want. In this episode, you’ll learn: -Why adult friendship feels so hard (and how to make it easier) -Why social health is a missing pillar of well-being -The Excuse vs. Need framework for connection -The Swap Strategy to feel less lonely, fast -The 5-3-1 Rule for stronger friendships -How to deepen the relationships you already have -Exactly how to make new friends as an adult -Why connection is essential - not optional No matter your age or stage of life, it’s not too late. If you’ve felt lonely, disconnected, or like building real friendship is impossible, this conversation will show you exactly what to do next, with steps that are simple, specific, and realistic. For more resources related to today’s episode, click here for the podcast episode page: https://www.melrobbins.com/episode/episode-393/ Follow The Mel Robbins Podcast on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/themelrobbinspodcast I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode. In this episode: 0:00 Introduction 9:56 4 Ways to Strengthen Your Social Health (Backed by Research) 12:09 Loneliness Epidemic: How Loneliness Changes Your Brain 16:47 How Friendships Improve Physical Health & Wellbeing 19:58 Stop Cancelling Plans: How to Make Time for Friends 34:46 How to Navigate Social Anxiety 39:07 Why You Feel Lonely Even With Friends 42:02 Too Tired, Stressed, or Busy to Socialize? 47:40 How to Feel Confident Making Friends 52:02 How to Make Friends With a Full-Time Job 54:22 How to Make New Friends as an Adult 56:16 The Best Formula to Improve Your Social Life 59:40 The 4 Friendship Styles: Which One Are You? — Follow Mel: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@melrobbins Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melrobbins LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melrobbins Website: http://melrobbins.com​ — Sign up for Mel’s newsletter: https://melrob.co/sign-up-newsletter A note from Mel to you, twice a week, sharing simple, practical ways to build the life you want. — Subscribe to Mel’s channel here: https://www.youtube.com/melrobbins​?sub_confirmation=1 — Listen to The Mel Robbins Podcast 🎧 New episodes drop every Monday & Thursday! https://melrob.co/spotify https://melrob.co/applepodcasts https://melrob.co/amazonmusic — Looking for Mel’s books on Amazon? Find them here: The Let Them Theory: https://amzn.to/3IQ21Oe The Let Them Theory Audiobook: https://amzn.to/413SObp The High 5 Habit: https://amzn.to/3fMvfPQ The 5 Second Rule: https://amzn.to/4l54fah

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