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Your Mind Is Programmed To Stay a Victim (Here's How To Rewrite It) | Kier Gaines

🔔 Subscribe for more great content: https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes ▶️ Recommended for you: https://youtu.be/AU9P18gC-UY You get good at whatever you practice, and most of us have quietly mastered waiting. Kier Gaines knows what that waiting costs. He's a licensed therapist who grew up in a rough DC neighborhood never expecting to see 21, and now spends his sessions untangling why people freeze right before the moment they've prepared for actually arrives. He walks you through the difference between blame and responsibility, and why anger can feel like armor until it quietly becomes the thing holding you back. You'll hear why self-victimization can feel like the safest story to tell yourself, even when it's the one keeping you stuck. His new book, “It All Starts When You Do,” pushes back on the idea that healing has a finish line. He talks about interrogating his own beliefs instead of protecting them, and why letting his daughters struggle a little now and then might be the most loving thing he does as a father. By the end, you'll be sitting with his simplest, hardest question: how much is actually enough, and what would it feel like to stop waiting for a perfect moment that was never coming anyway? Pre-order It All Starts When You Do https://smarturl.it/ItAllStartsWhenYouDo Kier on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kiergaines/?hl=en Listen to this episode on the go! 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499 🟢 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/07GQhOZboEZOE1ysnFLipT?si=a03d916bade54d4f For more info about this episode, go to https://lewishowes.com/1978 💰 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "Make Money Easy" today!https://lewishowes.com/moneyyou 📙 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "The Greatness Mindset" today! https://lewishowes.com/gmyo 📤 sign up for my FREE newsletter https://lewishowes.com/greatnessdelivered Follow Lewis! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/LewisHowes 💻 Website: http://lewishowes.com/ 📲 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Get More Greatness! Greatness Clips: https://www.youtube.com/@GreatnessClips Spanish: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesEspañol Portuguese: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesPortugues Lewis Howes Shorts: https://www.youtube.com/@lewishowesshorts 00:00:00 Unconscious Emotional Hijacking 00:03:42 The Danger of Waiting 00:06:30 Failure vs. Identity 00:11:45 Survivor's Guilt & Possibility 00:14:47 Why We Refuse to Change 00:18:35 Blame & Self-Victimization 00:24:36 Escaping Through Devices 00:26:55 Self-Interrogation & Journaling 00:30:14 3 Tools to Overcome Anger 00:34:40 Dismantling Anger & Healing 00:42:35 What to Do When Stuck 00:44:55 The Trap of Inauthenticity 00:50:13 Humanity's Greatest Challenge 00:54:14 Letting Children Safely Struggle 01:02:41 3 Truths & Greatness #greatness #inspiration #motivation