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The Psychology Research That Proves You Are Not the Problem — Your Environment Is | Angela Duckworth

🔔 Subscribe for more great content: https://www.youtube.com/lewishowes ▶️ Recommended for you: https://youtu.be/pOIBztTDLfQ Your husband being unimpressed with your work isn’t neutral. It’s the whole ceiling on what you become. Angela Duckworth, the psychologist who made “grit” a household word, sat down with Lewis and confessed something her research almost missed. Effort alone doesn’t build a great life. The situation you’re in does, and no one shapes that situation more than the person you marry. She traces it back to her own mother, a gifted painter who gave up her art for fifty years married to a man who walked past her paintings without a word. Then Angela goes further, into a marriage crisis she and her husband Jason never talked about publicly. Both of them were try-harder people who worked themselves into misery during the 2008 crash, until Angela told him on a walk that she cried every night and didn’t want to be married anymore. What saved them wasn’t more grit. It was therapy, three therapists between two people, and a willingness to change the situation instead of just pushing through it. Lewis matches her story with his own, requiring therapy before he’d even commit to dating Martha, because every past relationship had only gone to therapy once it was already collapsing. Angela ties it back to the Pygmalion effect. Your confidence is borrowed from the people who believe in you before you believe in yourself. By the end you’ll want to look around at your own life and ask who’s actually bringing out your best. Angela’s mother didn’t paint again until her husband died. Now, at 91, she paints every day. Situated: Find the People and Places That Bring Out Your Best https://amzn.to/3TXAq3k Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance https://amzn.to/3UtXGGk Angela's Instagram https://www.instagram.com/angelalduckworth/?hl=en Angela's LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/angeladuckworth/ Angela's Facebook https://www.facebook.com/angeladuckworthgrit/ Listen to this episode on the go! 🍎 Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-school-of-greatness/id596047499 🟢 Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/07GQhOZboEZOE1ysnFLipT?si=a03d916bade54d4f For more info about this episode, go to https://lewishowes.com/1977 💰 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "Make Money Easy" today!https://lewishowes.com/moneyyou 📙 get my NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLING book "The Greatness Mindset" today! https://lewishowes.com/gmyo 📤 sign up for my FREE newsletter https://lewishowes.com/greatnessdelivered Follow Lewis! Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lewishowes/ Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lewis Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/lewishowes/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/LewisHowes 💻 Website: http://lewishowes.com/ 📲 For more Greatness text PODCAST to +1 (614) 350-3960 Get More Greatness! Greatness Clips: https://www.youtube.com/@GreatnessClips Spanish: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesEspañol Portuguese: https://www.youtube.com/@LewisHowesPortugues Lewis Howes Shorts: https://www.youtube.com/@lewishowesshorts 00:00 - Intro 02:42 - The Power of Environment 06:14 - Partners Impact Your Success 13:58 - Angela’s Marriage Crisis 21:55 - Why Therapy Changed Everything 26:14 - The 3 Boxes of Psychology 30:34 - Therapy on Day One 34:44 - Threats to Successful Relationships 46:40 - The Cost of Unsupportive Partners 53:50 - Why Confidence is Borrowed 01:01:21 - Psychology of Placebos & Prayer 01:05:21 - Angela’s Three Truths 01:06:21 - Advice to a 22-Year-Old 01:09:03 - True Definition of Greatness T-Mobile.com/HomeInternet WaldenU.edu #greatness #inspiration #motivation